WHAT'S YOUR DEAL BREAKER IN A RELATIONSHIP?

Hey guys, it's your girl Zenny and I am here again as always with some juicy topic for us today. First, I did love to say a very big thank you to you all for your comments in my last post. I got different opinions, comments from different angles and I am so grateful and please keep the comments coming fam and don't forget to Subscribe and Share too because that's what keeps your girl going😉

Straight to our topic for today which is deal breakers in a relationship. Well let's start with stating the meaning of deals breaker.

Deal breakers are behaviours or characteristics a potential partner tends to have that you fundamentally disagree with. They are things you do to prevent unhealthy behaviors and potential dangerous situations in your relationship.

There are categories to the deal breaking thing and they are:

- Immediate deal breaker.
- Personal deal breaker.

Immediate Deal breaker

This category is the one that is a threat to life and I would advice everyone to look out for it and make sure to avoid it in a relationship. It can also be called a red flag. It comes in different forms which are:

Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse involves controlling another person using emotions to manipulate, criticize and blame them. There are different ways one can emotionally abuse his/her partner and it includes.

- Insulting, abusing and controlling the other. etc
- Some may try to make you feel like you are not enough
- Some try to alter your past to make them feel better.
- Playing Mind Games: They make you want them while they don't want you.
- They make everything to be about them. Whenever there is an issue they always tend to play the victim card.

Physical Abuse

Physical Abuse is an intentional act of causing injury or trauma to another person by way of bodily contact. This is a threat to life and should not be tolerated. Most times it's not always easy to come out of this but in cases like this, I would advice the victim to get help as soon as possible.

Infidelity

This is an act or state of being unfaithful to a spouse or other sexual partner.

Ahaa! you see this one, I would love to add that there are ways to this things. Infidelity is not only when you sleep with someone that is not your partner but it also includes when you go out on dates and give out your number to the opposite sex for relationship purposes. Now don't get me wrong, this is a difference between giving out your number for business and work purposes and casually giving out your number. When you say that you are in a serious relationship, Be in a serious relationship and avoid mingling with the opposite sex because that too is a deal breaker.

Now down to Personal Deal breakers

What are Personal Deal breakers?

Personal deal breaker are attitude or characteristics that you on your own would not accept from your partner, anybody else can accept that but to you its a no no. I am going to list a few which are very common amongst us and they are:

-Poor Communication
-Lack of Trust
-Unwillingness to resolve issues
-Religion
-Not accommodating each others friends and family
-Excessive time on phone(social media)
-Sexual Compatibility
-Being too Clingy
-Not taking the other as a Priority

..... And many more. Having listed but a few, I believe there are many more, it all depends on different individual and what they can tolerate.

Relationships comes with a whole lot, but I feel like if two people are really in love with each other and are willing to communicate and compromise, there would be no deal breaker because communicate and compromise is really very VERY important, except for when Immediate Deal breaker is involved. I wouldn't advice anyone to go ahead with any relationship that has the three things under immediate Deal breaker because this three things are not acceptable. 

Remember this is my own opinion, Feel free to share yours in the comment section. I honestly would love to hear from guys.

Don't forget I am still your girl Zee and I can't wait to hear from y'all in the comment section.

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